February Book: Winning by Tim S Grover
This is a book without secrets to success. It’s not for the shortcut-ers or the 3 steps to succes-ers.
This book is instead for those who wish to have a better understanding of winning. We truly learn what winning is and isn’t and what it takes to win. It’s not sugar coated because winning isn’t sugar coated. It’s raw and real.
Key takeaways from winning
“Rest when it’s over, not in the middle” - Kobe
This quote is a reminder to do what you’re doing when you’re doing it. This lesson can be applied to a workout, homework, a job task, or anything that needs to get done. We have so many distractions and fillers in today’s world. Don’t get caught up taking 10 minutes between sets scrolling TIKTOK. When you’re working out, workout. You’ll have time to scroll later.
Winning is like defending your title at every moment. Winning isn’t something you do now and then, it’s in everything you do and if you’re not constantly reaching for the win, you won’t achieve it. That doesn’t mean you can never rest, but it’s important to remember, when you are resting, someone else is getting closer to winning.
It’s not always about what you think, it’s about how you think and how to think. It’s easy to just learn facts and repeat them but it’s much more challenging yet much more valuable to be able to look at information and come up with your own assessment of that information. If you can do that, you have the ability to be ahead of the curve, to set trends, and be a leader.
In life, the test comes before you learn the lesson. This seems unfair, but who said life was fair? The lesson can be expensive, cause pain, and leave you with feelings of helplessness, dissatisfaction, and confusion. The best thing you can do is learn from the lesson life taught you so you don’t make the mistake again.
Routines give you the power to turn off your decision making and just do the work. If you don’t have a good routine, get one. It’s that simple. Don’t complicate a routine. Make it effective for your goals and do it everyday.
Unpredictable isn’t the same as uncontrollable. Life is unpredictable, BUT that doesn’t mean you can’t implement things to better control it. A routine can help this. Another effective means to better controlling an outcome is actually putting in the work. If you think your body composition is uncontrollable, it’s probably because you aren’t working out, eating right, sleeping, etc.
If you want to win, you have to be adaptable. This could be the biggest takeaway for me. If you are rigid and can’t effectively make moves based on real world conditions, you’ll never be successful. As great as a plan is, the best one will never play out fully. Whether that’s because your car broke down, you got sick, the economy tanked, the gym closed, or anything else, life will put things in your way you didn’t plan for. In these situations, if you can adapt, you’ll have a much higher chance of reaching your goal.
Winning has a price. Your mind has to be stronger than your feelings. If you’re not willing to pay the price of discomfort and you let your feeling tell you to stay in bed, don’t start that business, stay on the couch, keep doing what you’re doing because it’s easy, this will lead to losing. To me, this translates as discipline must be strong even when motivions is low.
Focus on the things you can control, not on the things you can’t. Very simple, some things in life you can control- when you wake up, whether you go to the gym, what you eat, what you read, who you hang out with- some things you can’t control- what the weather is, who your parents are, when you were born, your age, your past, the economy, how people react to you, etc. If you spend the rest of your life ONLY focusing on the things you can control, you will be the most successful version of yourself.
Stop grinding, start sculpting. Grinding is necessary sometimes but it should only be done for short periods of time. Instead of grinding, sculpt. Sculpting is the act of working on something with a specific vision and having something valuable as a result. Grinding leads to dust, sculpting leads to art.
Time for everything means time for nothing. Telling people no will allow you enough time to win. There is no balance for those committed to winning. The more you do, the less you do well.
Selfish winner vs selfish loser. A selfish winner is someone who is selfish doing things that lead to wins and success that are good for themselves and everyone they care about in the long term. A selfish loser is someone who wastes their own time, neglects family, and doesn’t add value by being selfish. Example of a selfish winner is spending an hour a day at the gym, working late on a business, going out of town for education, missing a kids event to close a deal. A selfish loser is going out to the bar with your friends every weekend while your kid is at home with a babysitter then missing your kids game the next day because you’re hungover.
To win again, you must be better than before. You’re rarely rewarded for being as good tomorrow as you were today. In the gym, you have to lift heavier to see more results, in business you have to sign another contract to grow the business, in sports you have to win another game to continue to be seen as a winner. To keep winning, you have to keep winning.
Your biggest challenge can propel you to winning. If you grew up poor or have a disability or lost a parent or went through a natural disaster and lost everything, use that. That is experience that if used properly can be used as fuel and perspective that few can pull from. Use struggle to your advantage.
Fear is pressure, doubt is panic. Pressure can lead you to perform, it can put you in the zone, it can help you understand the circumstances. Panic will create doubt, cause negative emotions and bodily responses that negatively impact performance. Use your fear, embrace your fear, don’t run from it.
You can’t make things better for yourself until you stop making them worse. If you want to be in better shape, stop going out Thursday through Sunday, stop eating junk, and get in the gym. You can’t implement a good routine and start winning if you’re involved in habits that keep you from the good action.
There’s no greater superpower than to be able to say “this is who I am” but losers are too afraid to be judged. Winners don’t care, they judge themselves and live with the verdict. Too much energy and time go into trying to be someone or something you aren’t. The undeniable force that refuses to be anyone but yourself is your power.
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